From Sleepwalking to LIVING
Stop Attracting Narcissists, End People-Pleasing, and Take Back Your Life
By Kate Howells
What the Book Is About
Are you tired of trying harder than others in every encounter, assuming that you are not enough as you are?
Have you spent a lifetime people-pleasing, avoiding conflict, or being drawn into toxic relationships — especially with narcissists? Do you feel responsible for how everyone else is feeling?
If you would like to stop living your life through others, who more than likely have no idea what is going on themselves, then:
*From Sleepwalking to Living* is the book for you.
It’s about sorting out your own mind so that you feel capable of making decisions for yourself. A disordered mind will always assume someone else knows better and narcissists invariably think they know best. Until you get your mind in order, you are the perfect prey for anyone wanting to control you.
Who It’s For
Emotionally Exhausted
People who feel emotionally exhausted from people-pleasing
Survivors of Manipulation
Anyone who has encountered narcissistic manipulation, whether from partners, friends, colleagues, siblings, parents, children or adult children
ADHD & Autistic Adults
Adults with ADHD or autism who often feel others know better
For Those Feeling Lost
Anyone who feels they’ve lost touch with who they are
What You’ll Learn / Gain
- That you are not your past experiences
- To manage your anxiety well so it doesn’t manage you badly
- To stop believing your miserable and compulsive thinking
- Why you need to stop the people-pleasing now
- That fawning is a trauma response that can be dealt with
- How to take back the remote control to your life
- How to stop trying to be something you think others want you to be
- How to accept yourself; forgive yourself and others; and enjoy life more
Featured Quotes or Excerpt
“Unless you take full responsibility for yourself and for everything that happens to you, you will lead a limited life.”
“If you aren’t in charge of your mind, someone else will be.”
"Narcissists will keep going until a non-negotiable boundary is put in and, unfortunately, a people-pleaser has been conditioned from childhood to have next to no boundaries. This creates the perfect environment for abuse".
About the Author
I’m a UK-based therapist who specializes in working with ADHD, Autism and dealing with the fall-out from narcissistic abuse.
When I trained, I did my placement in an agency specializing in domestic abuse. I then went on to run a project offering counselling to 13-25 year old victims of crime. I co-hosted a domestic abuse therapy group and we found that sometimes every group member was autistic and/or had ADHD.
This is because neuro-divergents are six times more likely than neurotypicals to become involved in relationships with narcissists. This is why working with neurodivergence automatically involves dealing with narcissistic abuse and why I now specialize in all of these areas.
I now work solely in private practice with individuals and couples.
